Listen to me, you beautiful person! The world will come to pass & all of us alive in it today will simply be a vapor in time. I don't care if you have straight teeth or a terrible laugh--all of us have traits & qualities of appearance that we would change about ourselves if given the opportunity. That doesn't make you insecure. That makes you human.
Let me remind you, darling, that you are with your mind & body 24 hours per day, seven days per week, 365 days per year. I don't know anyone on this planet that I would want to spend that much time with, myself included, but we don't have a choice. This is the body you were born with, this is the mind you were gifted with, & this is the soul & spirit you were given. All of those vessels, mind, body, & spirit, are gifts. You may not look in the mirror & swoon at yourself--but now is the time to start. You've never looked at yourself with the same perspective as that of a complete stranger. You've spent thousands of days alive, looking at yourself in the mirror & putting yourself under the microscope. You see a grocery list of flaws, scars, mismatched skin tones, muffin tops, & extra skin that you would love to see disappear. Maybe you spend hours gushing over airbrushed photographs of celebrities. You desire that flat stomach with such power that you actually skip meals, or you eat the meals, but purged them later. You want bigger boobs, a curvier butt, smaller calves, or longer the legs. When are you going to stop being so critical of yourself?
Our standard of beauty in America is absolutely pathetic. We think--believe--that if we look better physically, our quality of life will also be better. We equate "beauty" with the thumbs-up of a "Like" button. That the less we wear, the more beautiful we become. That if we do decide to cover up, we should do so in name-brand clothing lines, like "Pink" by Victoria's Secret. We are bombarded with lies on a daily basis. We sabotage our self-esteem by desiring to look like someone else, dress like someone else, & be someone else entirely. STOP IT.
If you love flannel, wear it. If you hate concealer, don't wear it. If you want to wear socks & flip-flops at the same time, do it. Do or don't wash your hair, I don't care. What I do care about is whether or not you love yourself. Do you love yourself? What does that relationship look like, or is there a relationship with yourself at all? You cannot go through life, hindering your value on the perceptions & expectations that other people have set for you. You get to set that bar for yourself, how high are you going to set it? I am here to tell you that you had better set that bar high. Stop settling. Today is the day that settling is no longer a trending topic in your life. If you aren't loving yourself completely, then you are hating yourself, be it in part or in full. Leave no room for doubt, because it will grow & it consume you.
You are enough. You matter. You are beautiful.
Did you hear me? You are enough. You matter. You are beautiful.
Megan Elizabeth is a storyteller based in Kalispell, Montana. Take a peek at her blog & portfolio, drop her a line, & follow her story on Facebook & Instagram.